Family Vs Career..

The first touch or the first feel of any human stepping into the world of life and humans is within the colossal divinity of one’s family. The nurturing, selfless care and love which surrounds the early years of any new born is an unprecedented halo of tender loving care. Values are instilled in us as we grow older and a bond creates on its own. The ties are a lot deeper than one can fathom and an unsaid promise takes shape without any ado’s come what may. The deep rooted protocol lies embedded that one would be there for one another be it the darkest hour or a blissful moment of celebration whenever it happens. Our friends can be chosen family too if the fix is ethereal and selfless, who knows?

The variety of emotions emerge as we walk the path of life midst platonic and sibling love that runs deep in the veins of familial blood. Duty, responsibility, care, love, faith, sacrifice, perseverance and courage walk hand in hand on a daily basis. Good moments, taxing hours of sleepless nights when the kids of the family undergo exam preparations is a common scene. The involvement is such that the entire family works towards a better grip over subjects for the forth coming exams. End of the day every parent or guardian wants their ilk to be good and come out successful for a better career. Many a times a mother swaps a role of a father and likewise for a father too it’s the same tune if the chemistry and tuning between the couple is good. Long hours and days of sacrifice and endless care is the visage for most of the days if a family member is sick or terminally ill.

The older generation takes turns to baby sit when either of the parent is busy in some errand or the other. Along the years the various functions not only bring relatives closer but a clan weaves a circle of togetherness. It’s a feeling of wholesomeness which beautifies that bond as years roll. Vacations or hanging out fortnightly or monthly evolves the bonding to greater heights. Understanding and relationship within the familial periphery takes a new leaf. A husband and wife, brother or sister, grandpa or grandma strengthens the setup a shade more each time by filling in at the need of the hour. Family is the first nucleus of getting pampered, taught, funded and founded which goads oneself to no ends.

Career they say is the core existence of a driven soul. It’s an individual’s life-work through which one wants to be known. Some realize their calling as they step out of the house in the form of a school, college, internship, formal education or being tutored. The dynamics have never been able to define when does the seed of having a career is planted in the human mind & being. Whenever realized, it just engulfs the human completely, breaking all shackles of possibilities and doing the needful to achieve it. It takes a lot of time and effort to build oneself in the direction where one wants to be. The hard work, patience, courage to follow their dreams go a long way if one is disciplined to work towards their goal.

It can be to be an architect, lawyer, doctor, filmmaker, singer, actor, scientist, VP of a company, CEO, chartered accountant, writer, entrepreneur, teacher, photographer, businessman, gardener, chef, builder, anthropologist, merchant navy officer or just being successful in whatever one opts to do. No matter whatever it is, a lot of it goes in the making of having a career. The hours of dedication, the sacrifices it may demand is common knowledge for the doer who has far out visions to make it happen. Sky is the limit they say and one has to give in a lot to achieve the priorities set for one self by them.

A career is one’s identity to a certain extent post a surname which one wears as we trundle on the path of life. Deadlines, meetings, projects, drafts, scripts, discussions, client’s point of view, hearings all need to be given a patient touch to construct the lineage one wants to be in. Health issues add another barrier if one pushes oneself to the limits. Here too a right balance is a key to come out stronger every time. A career brings in the money to grease the fuel of life for smooth functioning of needs and desires. Long hours in office, unwarranted stress of profit & loss, pondering and thinking for creative ideas take a toll on every individual time and again and the sheer hard work and determination help in actualizing our aspirations.

In both the fixes, one has to be totally in sync with the priorities they choose to live with till their last breath. Both take a lifetime to build it to perfection. Some get it easy, some have a tough time while inching towards their choices. An ambition to be a 100% giver be it a familial setup or a commercial aspiration, demands round the clock service of just doing their bit to the ‘T’. A very career oriented woman post marriage may not be able to pursue her ambition till her children are standing on their feet. Or a very familial man may not be able to give his best shot to his aspirations cause of ill health of his kin. Each can start afresh when life and god gives them a chance. It all depends on the persuasive chase of one’s dream of how to make the most till the inevitable takes him/her away from the face of the earth. An understanding life partner or an adjusting work environment can knit a yarn of magic actually. Family and career, both have their bearings.We as society should just not be judgemental about the choices one made as this is the least we can do for the overall growth of one and all.